Do not meddle in my life!

I remembered one occasion when I heard a girl say to his Father: DO NOT MEDDLE IN MY LIFE"! This phrase struck a chord in me, that I remember it very often in the relationship between parents and children and I imagine being that father and what I would say to my son.

SON, I DO NOT MEDDLE IN YOUR LIFE, YOU have gone to mine! For over 30 years, thanks God, and for the love that both Mommy and Daddy we had, you came into our lives, you spend our time, for almost nine whole months mom felt bad, she could not eat, everything she ate it back, and even she had to stay in bed. I had to share the tasks of my job and house to help her. We could not go to all meetings, both frequented no friends, in fact many of them we broke for you...

The last few months, before you come home, Mom could not sleep and would not let me sleep, we had to wake up early to go to work, but I had to strive to be patient and help mom to feel better, for you were good. Expenditures increased remarkably, while much of what we spent on you: In a good doctors who treated your mother and help carry a healthy pregnancy, in medicines, maternity, buy an entire wardrobe, Mom did not see some did not want that baby to you, a crib, a car, everything that could be as long as you were the best.

I did not even realize when I stop buying things for me, and you know that computers are my delirium.

DO NOT MEDDLE IN MY LIFE?
The day came when you were born, we have to buy something to remembrance to them that come to know him, (MAMA SAID), we need to adapt a room for the baby. Since the first night, we do not sleep. Every three hours as if you were an alarm clock woke us so you could cook, others you feel bad and cry and cry, without us we felt calm, because sometimes we didn’t know was happening until we cried with you.

DO NOT MEDDLE IN MY LIFE?
All the diseases you got and we had to suspend many of our outings, Mom was very well arranged to go to a meeting (after months of not going out), I was about to go through it and she call me to change of plans and tell me: “The child has a fever, we can not go!”.

DO NOT MEDDLE IN MY LIFE?
You began to walk, I don’t know when not we have had to be more behind you, if you started to walk or when you thought you knew. We couldn’t sit still to read the newspaper or watch television, because by the time we agreed, you got lost from our sight and we had to leave behind you to avoid getting hurt.

DO NOT MEDDLE IN MY LIFE?
I still remember the first day of school, when we couldn’t go to work, since you at the school door would not let go us and enter, crying and asking us not going home, we had to go with you at school, and ask the teacher to let us be on your side that day in the room you were taking confidence, confidence that you should be taking, after so confident that you took, until you forgot about us , most of the time not only no longer asked us not to leave, you forgot to say goodbye when stepped out of the car running to meet your new friends.

DO NOT MEDDLE IN MY LIFE?
We received very often notes from school saying: He ignore us, he is undisciplined, he’s fighting with others, he doesn’t do his homework, he spends in the bathroom, he scratched his comrade book, he injured his foot, he broke his hand.... and besides we had to pay to attend! You were growing and with you were growing the adventures.

DO NOT MEDDLE IN MY LIFE?
The neighbor approached one day to say: "your child broke a glass in my house with a pellet pistol. You continued growing, you wanted to go too fast, you urged to know all the places of entertainment in the city, when you was 13 and you wanted go to all the parties of your friends who met 15, You no longer wanted me to take you to your meetings, you would ask us, a street before you leave and we spent for you, one street after, because you're cool, you did not want to arrive early home, you mind if I established rules, we could not make comments about your friends without you being turned against us, as if you knew them a lifetime and we were completely unknown to you, lend me your car, you told us and we felt the worst parents in the world for not do it.

DO NOT MEDDLE IN MY LIFE?
Mom constantly had to be accommodating the same things in your room (even outside of it), because she manages a day and the other had to do it again and again were disorderly.

DO NOT MEDDLE IN MY LIFE?
Each day we know less about you for yourself, we know more of you because we hear others talking about you, you say we just scold you or make negative comments , and all we do is wrong, with how many "supposed" flaws we have could to give you all that you have now?, are we then so stupid and clumsy as human beings?; your mother passes awake and not let me sleep saying that you have not arrived and that it is dawn, you only looking to me when you have to pay something or need money for school or to leave, or worse, we seek you when we have to get your attention.

DO NOT MEDDLE IN MY LIFE?
Surely some of these "BOYS" ripe today, they would not be here if only the parents had been initially and then they have left the task of feeding, educating, caring, etc... Many of the children would not have achieved any goal despite the efforts of their parents. If the parents do not care what they do, where they go and with whom, many of them may no longer be with us, or perhaps they would be in a hospital or prison by a defect.

But I am sure that with these words: “DO NOT MEDDLE IN MY LIFE!" We can respond together: Son, I do not interfere in your life, you’ve gotten into mine, and I assure you, FROM THE FIRST DAY UNTIL THE DAY OF TODAY, I AM THE MAN happier because you are here!

Parents: THANK YOU to get into the lives of their children, THANKS TO IT, BECAUSE WE CAN NOW SEE THEM MORE MADE IN A STAGE OF THEIR TRAINING. ONLY PARENTS THAT KNOW how to get IN THE LIFE OF THEIR CHILDREN achieve to MAKE THESE, GOOD MEN AND WOMEN. PARENTS: THANK YOU!

And for the children: value their PARENTS, IF THEY ARE NOT PERFECT YOU MUCH LESS, OR IF NOT, WAIT A LITTLE Reached by the most ruthless CRITICAL OF THIS LIFE ... THEIR OWN CHILDREN.
By Dr Ernesto Contreras.

translated by: Cesar M. Duran